DRESS TO IMPRESS – Lingerie – Instalment 10

Good Morning Everyone – Sunday again and you might have some time to continue coordinating your lingerie wardrobe – yes, I call it lingerie wardrobe because  it is as important as your outer wardrobe. As a matter of fact it can make or break any garment you wear by showing bra straps, emphasize your love handles or have pantie lines distract from the beauty of your dress or pants. So let us start by looking at which pantie style is good for what body shape.

For Small Hips, Slim Thighs – Illustration No. 1

This body type will look good in any sort of briefs. Obviously, the very skimpy styles, like G-strings or the type held together at the side with a bow or ring, are the sexiest (Illustration No. 1). Under trousers, however, they might show a mark or line where you don’t want one, so a type extending up to the waist would be more practical.

Medium-Size Hips and Thighs – Illustration No. 2

If your thighs are not as slim as you would like them to be, always choose a style that is cut high on the outside, exposing part of your hip (Illustration No. 2). This will make your legs seem longer and slimmer (and sexier). Stay away from boy-leg cuts; they are not only unbecoming but they make your legs seem larger than they are.

Also good for this figure is the type with a wide elastic lace band on top, extending to the middle of the stomach. Under trousers, choose a style that comes up to the waist (Illustration No. 3).

Big Hips, Heavy Thighs – Illustration No. 4

 If your hips are large and you are looking for a sexy panty, consider culottes, slit up the sides (Illustration No. 4). These are panties made like a little skirt. To look attractive, the leg part must not extend more than two inches over the top of your thigh. The advantage of the slit at the side is that it gives room as well as flare to the panty without revealing too much of the leg. (For this type of figure a high cut on the outside is not good, because it will expose what you don’t want to show.)

Culotte panties can be worn only under a full skirt, not under a straight one or trousers. For trousers or a straight skirt choose either a pair of pantyhose that have a panty part like Underalls, or a brief that goes from your waist to the top of your legs, making a smooth line. Should you need more support, wear a brief made from elastic tricot. And if still more control is necessary, wear a panty girdle with longer legs, made from elastic tricot. To make this type of garment more attractive and sexy, buy it in black instead of white or a flesh colour. The darker colour will also make you look slimmer. 

In this case a bikini or brief would be a disaster. Since this style does not extend to the waist, it will cut into the flesh, creating a spare tire. The best solution is an elastic panty that will give you a smooth line from waist to thigh. It can be sexy in a dark colour—burgundy, black, or brown—and in a fine fabric with a little sheen and pretty lace trim.

Flat Derriere – Illustration No. 5

 Many women are unhappy that they don’t have a curvier bottom, but a flat one is easier to cope with than a big one! Unless you need a waist-high style for a particular outer garment, avoid this type, as it will make you look flatter. The panty should stop just above the curve of the bottom (Illustration No. 5). Select lace fabrics to add volume, or at least ample lace trimmings and frills. Buy panties slightly bigger than you need; the extra room will create the illusion of more.

NOTE: Remember what ever style panties you wear, be sure to get them big enough, Asking for a size 5 may make you feel better than asking for a size 7, but most of the time the bigger size will be more flattering to your figure. Nothing looks worse than the spare tire created by elastic cutting into the flesh. This applies even to a very slim woman.



Before you go shopping I will ask you to look at the underwear you now own. Start by taking all your lingerie out of your drawers and closets (make sure that none of it is in the laundry). Eliminate the items you wouldn’t want to be seen in. Ask yourself why you bought them in the first place. If the flesh-colour bra was to go under your beige sweater, think back to when you bought it. Are you sure that there wasn’t a more attractive model, maybe with more lace or a better cut? And what about the slip to wear under your knitted dress; couldn’t you have found one that makes you look less like a sausage? With the choice of styles on the market today, we have no excuse for buying underwear that is practical but not attractive.

After the first weeding out, you should be left with items you like and those you need for certain outfits.

Maybe some of the items you have kept are not exactly favourites, but you feel that you couldn’t afford nicer versions. This brings us to the question of quantity. Do you really need fourteen bras and twenty pairs of panties? Most women wear four or five bras constantly; the others just lie in the drawer.

Think carefully about what you need before you buy. That way you can have five really good bras instead of ten or more mediocre ones. Maybe you hesitate to throw out panties because you do your laundry once every two weeks. You can solve this problem by washing your panties when you shower or bathe .

Then you will always have clean ones, you won’t need so many, and you can buy more expensive styles. (This rule applies to every other item, too; buy less and you can afford to splurge.)

When coordinating what you need, coordinate the colours as well. The new shades in lingerie we can omit pinks and baby blues if we choose. Colours like burgundy, navy, chocolate-brown, black, red, champagne, rose, and lavender allow us to select the most becoming and the most sexy colours, that flatters our skin – and consider black and red. (A study of men’s reaction to colours showed that black is regarded as the most exciting, with red a close second.) Beige and flesh colours are not becoming because there is not enough contrast with the skin. Beige should be worn only when outer garments need it; such as, under a white blouse beige is less visible than white 


Whenever you have a moment to spare, go into a shop or browse in a department store to see what is being offered. You don’t always have to buy, but you will know what is fashionable. Feel the materials and consider how the new colours this season would look on you. Imagine how those sexy styles would make you feel. If you find something interesting, take it to the fitting room and try it on. ALWAYS TRY ON. You may be sure of your size, but a particular model might be all wrong for your figure. (This applies even to panties, which unfortunately most women don’t try on.) I know it’s frustrating to see something you like and not have the time to try it on. But don’t take the risk. You might come home with an item that doesn’t suit you.


Wearing pretty, appealing, sexy underwear will do as much for your self-confidence than a pretty dress. You should never feel that you don’t want to be seen in that bra or those panties.

Has it ever happened to you that your underwear prevented you from enjoying an adventure? It did to me—only once, but I have never forgotten it and I have regretted it ever since.

My Grandmother’s motto was –  this will stand YOU in good stead too:



And Never forget – A Smile Changes Everything!








Sunglasses add instant sex appeal and mystery to a woman’s look by hiding her eyes – and they still fulfil their original purpose of protecting the eyes from the sun and glare.

And because sunglasses are an accessory that changes with fashion trends, you should buy a new pair each year – and making matters worth for your budget – don’t buy cheap ones. They lack refinement in styling and finish, and they don’t stand up to wear and tear. The lenses scratch easily and soon they will look like you had them for years.

Now is the time to start looking for the right pair – here are some choices!

sunglasses 2013
WWD March 25, 2013

See you tomorrow





Are you wearing glasses? I do – and I found out that my glasses can either enhance my eyes or not, depending on how well I have applied my eye makeup. 

After applying your eye makeup don’t just get up, put on your glasses and go. Instead before you leave your mirror, put your glasses on and check if everything is in the right place – no mascara on your eyelids; not too much eyeshadow; not a too heavy eye liner  –remember glasses magnify your eyes and show up any little fault.  

But the good news about wearing glasses is that it makes your eyes look bigger and if everything is in the right place, glasses add interest and often make a woman look sexy.

See you tomorrow

  scan0004-2                       Brigitte




Marilyn Monroe once said: “Give a girl the right shoes, and she can conquer the world.” Not that Marilyn needed the right shoes, even without shoes she could have conquered the world!

But it is true that the most effective way to look feminine and sexy is to wear high-heeled shoes. (Alas, if only someone could combine comfort with spike heels). From my survey, which was published in my book What Turns Men On – 80% said that they preferred and like women who wear high heels. Here is one comment: “High heels make legs appear longer and curvier. They also add height and give a woman’s silhouette a slimmer look. No man ever misses a pair of legs with high-heeled shoes. The style of the shoes doesn’t matter, it’s the heel that counts.

Another said: “I am extremely turned off by women who wear only flat shoes, because I feel that a high-heeled shoe is the trademark of a vibrant, sexy woman.”

Do you have any high-heeled shoes in your closet? If you can’t wear spike heels, maybe you could try a pair like these, with a medium heel?

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J.Crew – Style Guide

See you tomorrow

             scan0004-2                  Brigitte


When buying a dress that you will wear mostly when sitting, such as at dinner or the theatre, or even behind a desk, make sure that the top is flattering to your face. Don’t wear styles that have all the design and interest in the skirt.

Until the next time




Hello Everyone

Since skirts and dresses are going to be an  important part of our summer wardrobe this year, we must make sure that the length of the skirt is becoming for our legs. And remember legs play a big part in looking feminine and sexy. As the fashion magazine show, this summer any length is worn.  

So which length is best for you? This depends on what kind of legs you have and how much you want to show. If your legs are beautiful and without any marks you can wear your skirt above the knee – maybe two or three inches.

If you feel that this not the best for you, or it is not appropriate for your lifestyle, try two inches below the knee. But if you go longer, remember that skirts to the floor are nice for evenings, the beach, the weekend, a party but not for business.

Small women have to be especially careful to find the right length, because if the skirt is too long, it makes her look as if she’s standing in a hole. And when  finding a skirt you like, that is it too long, remember any Dry Cleaner has staff that does alterations.

I once had a customer who was five feet tall. Her skirt, made from a lovely beige fabric, reached her ankles. When I said what a pity it was that we could not see her legs and that her skirt should be shorter, she said, “Oh, I wouldn’t cut this lovely fabric. I paid $95 for this skirt.” I made one more attempt, but she repeated that the fabric was too good to be cut. I guess she was afraid of losing $20.

Note: This is a typical example of a garment wearing the person and not the person the garment. Don’t ever forget that clothes are there for you, not you for them.

The most flattering length for ninety-five percent of all women is just below the knee. For s SHORT WOMAN, it would be about an inch below the knee, and for a TALLER WOMAN two inches or more but not longer than mid calf, or it can look dowdy. 

To find the best length for you, you must take the trouble to try your clothes on and look at them. To see how a skirt will look shorter, turn the waistband over once, twice, or more. With a dress, use a belt to pull the dress up to a length which you think suits you. If a skirt is too short, you can take the hem down, providing there is enough hem there. In order to save on fabric the hems are often very narrow. So when you buy a skirt or dress and need to take the hem down, make sure there is enough to take down.

The reason you should look at each garment in your wardrobe individually, is because the right length can be affected by cut, the weight of the fabric and even colour. A straight skirt in a dark, heavy material can be shorter than a light, full skirt, which needs a bit more length so you won’t look like a little girl.

No, I am not going to talk about the short,short skirts,  those which are difficult to sit down in, and just cover the crotch, because I don’t think it is matter of length anymore, but more about ‘where is the rest of the dress?’

Until the next time

                                        STAY WELL AND LOOK YOUR BEST


PS. Photos from Bostonb Proper Trend Catalogue

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