DressTo Impress – Find Out How – Lingerie and It’s Appeal – Instalment 8

Good Morning Everyone – here is another Sunday to be lazy – or maybe  you feel like finding out how Lingerie can increase your sex appeal? Let me ask you……………

what’s more exciting than suspense! Think of unwrapping a gift. The best moment of all comes when you’re wondering what’s in the parcel as you carefully open it. Not that the object loses its attraction when you see it, but the suspense adds to its appeal. It’s the same with a woman and underwear. Lingerie is the wrapping paper for her body. It increases her desirability and sex appeal.
Your partner is, of course, already attracted to you, otherwise he wouldn’t be there. But the act of ‘unwrapping’ can certainly add to the stimulation of the evening (or day). And, as you may know, some people don’t unwrap their presents all the way. It’s often fun to keep something back. A little mystery works wonders. I truly believe that nudity does not add to sexual appeal but instead detracts from it. It detracts from the art of seduction. The underwear a woman is wearing, if it’s sexy, will certainly increase the pleasure and degree of eroticism she and her partner feel.
Lingerie gives you the chance to look and be someone else for a special occasion. Change keeps life interesting. A garter belt, a special bra, a sexy pair of stockings can be a great boost to your love life. I’m not saying this just for the benefit of your partner, but also for you. After a number of years, life may have gone a little flat for you too, and you may not always feel inspired. But wearing sexy soft, silky underwear will change your mood. Feeling naughty and provocative will give you back the excitement you’ve missed. Just imagine going out for dinner wearing a beautiful red bra and bikini panties. Besides the pleasant feeling of the soft fabric against your skin, your anticipation of what your lover will say when he sees you will make you more seductive. Don’t feel apprehensive about your image. When you see the effect, you’ll soon forget your worries.

A LOOK BACK

Underwear as we understand it did not come into existence until the later Middle Ages. Most underpinnings started as outerwear and then went underneath, usually because they became more functional. The most elementary of early garments for both sexes was the loincloth, a forerunner of what is known to us as briefs. The corset started as an outer garment as early as the twelfth century, but not until three centuries later did it become an undergarment used by both women and men to improve on nature by artificially shaping the body and influencing the look of fashion for many years.
Another original function of underwear was to protect outerwear— which could not be easily washed and was often made from elaborate and costly fabrics—from bodies that did not enjoy a daily bath. Undergarments were therefore made from cotton or linen, which was easy to wash.
By 1900 underwear was being made from silk, satin, and lace, and was becoming seductive and a fashion in itself. As such, it now had a name of its own—lingerie.
It took the form of negligees and peignoirs, corsets (the Gibson Girl S-shape corset of 1904), combinations, drawers, and petticoats. Image result for gibson girl underwear

Underwear followed and was adapted to the fashion trends of outerwear. In 1907 the French designer Paul Poiret banished the curved S-shape figure by bringing into fashion a more natural shape, and with it the brassiere was born. In 1913 came a new concept of the brassiere, when the American Mary Philips Jacobs (later known as Caresse Crosby) brought but a new soft, short model that separated the breasts.Image result for caresse crosby first bra
By the way, the terminology used to describe underwear has undergone constant change. Lingerie became known as undies in the 1920s, and petticoats became petties. Brassiere was shortened to ‘bra’ in the 1930s. Drawers first became stepins, then pants or panties: only after 1950 were they called briefs.
The discovery of nylon by Du Pont in 1938 is the most important invention in the history of underwear. Its attractiveness and low cost allowed underwear to be less exclusive, less expensive, and therefore available to women of all classes.
Elastic fabrics began to affect corsetry in the early 1920s, when shop catalogues referred to ‘corsets of porous elastic.’ They were further improved by new machinery that came into use in the 1950s, when fully elasticised foundation garments were made and introduced to the popular market.
With the youth explosion of the 1960s, underwear took a dramatic turn. The miniskirt had a lot to do with the disappearance of the girdle, regarded for many years as a must for a good figure. Tights and pantyhose replaced stockings, and made garter belts and girdles unnecessary. Underwear was losing its attraction. More and more women wore only a bra and tights or pantyhose.
The see-through fashions that appeared in the 1960s and Rudi Gernreich’s no-bra bra, introduced in 1963, minimised the concept of underwear even further.

rudi gernreich....... now his underwear line was very innovative for the 60's...with the nude-look bra ( luckily I found a much cheaper knockoff, which I wore and loved)...

The moulded seamless flesh-colour concept took over. Women now wore underwear that was nearly invisible and so were they. This type of lingerie does not enhance any woman’s sex appeal. It might be necessary under certain clothes, such as knits, but I am sure that every woman has clothes in her wardrobe that will allow for a more exciting image than the flesh-colour look. Fortunately for us, designers are now giving us many choices in seductive looks.

Now that we are on the right track knowing what lingerie can do for us (and/or the man in our life) next week we will look at the one item that is the most difficult to buy – A BRA –

Until then – Never Forget A Smile Changes Everything!

Brigitte

 

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Dress to Impress – Find Out How! – Instalment 7 – Well-Fitting Clothes.

Good Morning Everyone- happy to be here with you again and to continue talking about how to make sure that the fit is right.

 

 

 

As I advised you last week  — while trying on a garment you have to check out front, back, and sides. But there are other details to look at carefully, and they are.

  • SHOULDERS

For a set-in sleeve, the shoulder seam should be on your natural shoulder line. If it is farther out, you may look like an American football player; if it is too far in, you will appear to have grown out of the garment

  • LAPELS

A classical grey pant suit is a very executive look. Be sure to add this staple to your professional wardrobe. Banana Republic, The Limited and Nordstrom offer conservative and well fitting suits for all shapes and sizes.

 

They must lie flat. If they buckle or bulge over the bust, it is a sign that the garment is too small.

  • SLEEVES

These must not pull where the sleeve is set into the jacket, and no horizontal pleats or dimples on the arm. A question I am asked often is: ‘How long should a jacket sleeve be?’ To find the right length for you, measure from the tip of your thumb 5 inches up. That is where the sleeve should end. Your shirt or blouse should extend 1/2″ to 3/4″ beyond it.Image result for photo of ill fitting jacket in shoulder

 

Vertical wrinkles mean that a garment is too large. Horizontal wrinkles show that it is. too tight. This rule applies especially to trousers. Horizontal pleats in the crotch area show that the trousers are too snug.
I will discuss correct proportions and proper styles for various figure types in later chapters. However, there are a few more important points to remember about fit:

1. Fitness and fit go together. What I mean is the better the shape of your body, the tighter the clothes you can wear.
2. A heavier person will look slimmer in slightly loose clothes.
3. To test how good a fit is, see how a garment moves with you: sit down in it, bend in it, and walk in it. A good fit should be rather smooth in all positions.
4. Consider whether you want to wear a garment under or over something else. A coat, obviously, has to be roomy enough to fit over a jacket. A sweater to be worn under a shirt or another sweater must not be too bulky.
5. Decide what shoes you will wear with the garment. Its length can of course be changed, but it is better to find the right length without having to bother with alterations.

ALTERATIONS

And this brings us to the question of alterations. To have a perfect fit, alterations are often necessary. (I hardly ever buy anything that I don’t adjust somewhere; this should not be necessary for someone who is 5 feet 8 inches and wears a size 10, but it often is if I want something just right.) Alterations should be considered mainly for the following: to shorten a garment, to lengthen skirts, trousers, or sleeves; or to take in the waist (when this is done, the most you can take in without damaging the style is 1 1/2″). When shortening a jacket, skirt, or trousers, have the new hem pinned completely first and then try the garment on again to see if it is the correct length and to check the proportions. For example, if you have a jacket shortened, be sure the pockets are not too close to the edge of the jacket.
Unless you are a very good seamstress, have alterations done by an expert. (Most Dry Cleaners have someone to do it) This is especially true of hems, for one that is badly done can spoil a garment. (A 3″ hem looks very ugly.) When letting out a hem or sleeves, make sure that the fabric will not keep crease marks from the earlier length. Velvet, synthetic knits, satin, silk, and sometimes even cotton tend to do this. With wool and gabardine, however, the marks are easily removed with pressing. If the alteration comes close to remaking the garment, I do recommend against it, as it will affect the style and never look right.

But a small alteration, the ones mentioned above, can make the dress you fell in love with just right for you. So don’t dismiss the idea of having a garment altered.

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Now that we have spoken about the outer garments next week we will look underneath – Lingerie and its Appeal.

Wishing you a sunny Sunday, and reminding you that

A Smile Changes everything!

Brigitte

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Dress To Impress – Find Out How – Instalment 6 – Fit

Good Morning my Sunday friends  – today we will talk about how clothes should fit to impress and to make you feel good about yourself – so let’s dive right into it.

A good fit determines how smart you look. A bad cut distorts your figure, while a good one shows it to its best advantage. We read a lot about how we can hide and camouflage figure flaws—but why should the flaw always be us? Have you ever tried on a dress that you liked, but found that it didn’t look right on you? You may have thought that something was wrong with your figure but the garment itself could have been the culprit. When the shoulders of a garment are a little too wide or if a sleeve is not set in well, the resulting pulls and puckers are unsightly. Unfortunately, with mass production of clothing, workmanship has declined greatly. Today, more than ever, time and money are needed to find the correct fit. You need time to check an item thoroughly to see how it is made. And you need money to get a better fit and finish. Well-made buttonholes, carefully stitched hems and seams, pattern co-ordination and good fabrics cannot be found in cheap merchandise. The extra money you spend will pay off because your garment will last longer and will keep its good looks as long as you own it.

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The fit of these pants does not help you too look good
The fit of any of these pants will enhance your figure

It is important to keep in mind that you will look better in clothes that fit well without distorting your figure. For example, avoid a jacket that makes you appear too large on top, a pair of pants with a crotch so low that the length of your legs is reduced by a few inches, or which are too long and drag on the floor.

Or a halter-neck that gapes and thus distorts your bust-line. A halter-neck should fit snugly like the one in the picture.

NANCY’S PROBLE

You may have trouble finding good-fitting clothes if you wear one size on top and a different one on the bottom. But don’t be discouraged. What you feel to be a drawback might really be an asset. A client of mine found that out one day when we went shopping.

Nancy, a good-looking woman in her early thirties, was convinced that she had a big problem, since she was not a standard size. Her ‘problem’ turned out to be a size 38 bust with 36-inch hips—in other words, a very sensual figure and one that most women would give their right arm for. (The other way around—the pear-shaped figure—is much more common and much less attractive.)

Admittedly, it took time to find what we wanted. But we found a handsome, conservative blazer in a subdued black-and-white check, paying special attention to the fit over the bust. The lapels had to lie flat, and the jacket had to close easily without being too loose. Under it we chose a blouse that was slightly loose to avoid a too-busty look. The colour was fuchsia, lively but not too bright or loud. A straight black skirt completed the outfit. It was too long, so it had to be shortened ( more about alterations the next time)to show the world that she had a pretty pair of legs. When we had finished our shopping, Nancy looked both business-like and feminine in her trim blazer and soft classic blouse. It was a change from her ill-fitting two-piece dress.

TAKE TIME TO DO IT RIGHT

How clothes fit has nothing to do with your height or weight. Clothes can be adjusted to any figure. But, as in Nancy’s case, you may need time and patience to find exactly what you want. Among the vast choices available today, there are clothes to fit every body type. Some·stores and manufacturers specialise in garments for very small women (yes, there is a size 2), while others cater to tall women or to large sizes (18 to 24). If you have special needs but don’t know where to find them go on line for help. But never give in to the feeling that nothing better can be found, or that you are so tired (after a day of shopping) that second-best ‘will do.’ What you want is out there. Just don’t get discouraged.

When you’re trying on clothes, make sure you have an unobstructed three-way view of yourself in the mirror. If the fitting room doesn’t have a three-way mirror, use your hand mirror to look at the back of the garment. There should be no pleats and pulls anywhere. Look at yourself from the side, too. You’ll be surprised to see how many styles that look good front and back look less so sideways—perhaps revealing more stomach than you thought you had.

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Once you have checked out front, back, and sides there are details on a garment you have to look at to make sure the fit is right for you – and that is what we will talk about next Sunday – until then

Never forget – A Smile Changes Everything!

Brigitte

 

 

 

 

 

 

Dress To Impress – Find Out How! – Instalment 5 – Prints

Good Morning – I hope your Sunday is sunny and you are ready to find out why flowers might look better in a vase than on your dress.

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 PRINTS

To choose a suitable print that will enhance your colouring and personality is not easy. Many of them are too busy, too bright, or too large. Asking men how they feel about printed clothing, the answer was ‘Prints make a woman look older’; and ‘Prints make me think of curtains or tapestry.’

It’s true that many patterns tend to make one look older, especially floral prints. (Maybe this has to do with memories of our grandmothers’ aprons!) Other prints tend to overpower the wearer. While a woman client and I were shopping, we saw a dress made from a beautiful coloured floral material. She liked it so much that she tried it on. When she looked in the mirror, she kept admiring the dress, never looking up at her face. I asked her if she thought this dress did something for her. Now, looking at herself, she had to admit that the loud colours and the big print did seem overpowering.

Anyone seeing this woman would have noticed and admired the dress—but the wearer would never have been seen. In order to avoid being overwhelmed, choose a subdued print. A flattering print is one that is soft in colour or widely scattered.

Corn Yellow Twill by Premier Printsl

What also helps to make a print more attractive is a quiet spot somewhere in the ensemble, like the tops in this picture. If a print is on the loud side, wear a solid colour next to your face and wear the print in the skirt or pants, in the underside of a collar and cuffs, around a hemlines of a skirt, or on the back of a dress. Image result for floral dresses and pants

Here is a general rule that will guide you in your selection: if the pattern is small, the colours, can be bright and multiple, but as the print gets larger, the colours should become lighter or less frequent. For example, a small paisley print can be done in red and yellow on a blue back­ ground, but a large design should be more muted.

But most importantly when you try on a dress or blouse which has a pattern, don’t only look at the garment but see what effect it has on your face.

Wishing you a Happy Sunday with flowers on you dress or in a vase, until next time when we will speak about how important fit is!

And never forget – A Smile Changes Everything!

Brigitte

 

 

 

 

Dress to Impress – Find Out How – Instalment 4

How time flights – another week has passed and it is Sunday morning  – time to look at colours and their effect on us. Today it’s all…..

….. ABOUT BLACK

Black makes most people think of long evening gowns, of deep decolletages, of silk and satin—in other words, of elegance and sensuality.

Because black is the most important of all colours, it deserves some extra attention. Black is becoming to every complexion and suits every figure. It can be worn during all seasons and looks attractive in all types of fabrics. It is elegant, authoritative, sexy, and sad. In the late nineteenth century domestic servants, shopgirls, clerks, and elderly people of modest means were only considered properly dressed when in black. It can be worn equally well by men and women.

Black is a colour worn by rich and poor, by the clergy and by call girls. It can show positions of social standing high and low. It is both serious and worldly. It is the colour that is universally the most appropriate for all occasions. Most important, it never really goes out of fashion. Around 1930 Gabrielle Chanel brought out the famous ‘little black dress,’ which since then has never left us.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Whenever someone asks me to describe the greatest error in dressing, I have to answer that it is the co-ordination of colours—or rather the lack of it. The other day I looked in disbelief at a young woman who was dressed like this: black coat, light grey trousers, beige shoes, blue cap, dark brown handbag, burgundy attaché case, and, to top it all off, striped gloves in bright red, yellow, blue, green, and mauve! From the various fashion components one could see that this woman purchased items of the highest quality but because of poor colour co-ordination she looked messy and unappealing. Unfortunately, this kind of dressing is not rare. Many women wear up to five or more different colours at the same time. (Just look around you.) In the winter the problem is worse, since people wear more clothes .

Women speak with respect of someone who is well co-ordinated: ‘She’s so well put together.’ There is really no secret in looking that way. It just takes planning. The same day I saw Ms. Striped Gloves, I saw another woman who also wore a black coat, but her accessories consisted of beige handbag, a black attaché case, beige boots, black gloves, and a beige hat-and-scarf set. Everyone looked at her admiringly. She wasn’t wearing anything special or outstanding, but what she did have on fitted together.

I am often asked, ‘How can I learn to co-ordinate my wardrobe better? ‘If you think about what you have in your wardrobe and only buy clothes that will fit into that colour and style scheme, you will have no problem coordinating your look.

Most of us know that brown goes with bone, and black with red. But for new ideas, fashion magazines are a real eye-opener. Study the way they combine colours. You would probably never think of wearing a royal-blue blouse with your tan suit, but seeing it in Vogue will convince you that it can look fabulous.

Since we all know that brown and beige or black and red go together, the following chart will help you to find  more unusual combinations. Colours that harmonise well are:

  • Black and orange
  • Black and maize
  • Black and lilac
  • Black and pink
  • Black and slate
  • Black and royal blue
  • Black, yellow, and crimson
  • Black, orange, and blue

If you have never tried any of these combinations, it’s time you do. You will be surprised how becoming a Black dress with a Pink Jacket is. Or you can add life to a black dress by wearing it with a bright coloured scarf

Another source of inspiration are the combinations of men’s clothing. The colours and prints used in men’s wear are as appropriate for women as they are for men. Many women say they envy men because they always look well co-ordinated . The secret is that the colours used are fewer and stay mostly in the same colour family, with shirt and tie adding life and colour. This should translate for us into wearing neutral basics and adding colour with accessories: scarves, belts, and blouses or other tops.

Until next Sunday when we will talk about PRINTS

And never forget – A Smile Changes everything!

Brigitte

 

 

 

Dress to Impress – Find Out How? – 3. Instalment – The Importance of Colour

Another Sunday and another step towards looking your best -today we are finding out how colours can influence your look.

The Importance of Colour

Colours have a great influence on your femininity. They send out all kinds of messages. Think of black. It is known to look sexy when worn as lingerie; however, as the colour of a judge’s robe it imposes authority . White is known to stand for purity, but a white bikini on a tanned body looks very appealing. It is impossible to say that one colour is more becoming than another. What makes the difference is the person who is wearing it, and how the colour contrasts with her skin.

The contrast a colour creates is very important because contrasts bring out vitality, and vitality is associated, even if unconsciously, with attractiveness. For example, a blond dressed in black or a brunette in beige will look more vibrant than the reverse. A blond dressed all in beige or white will project a monochromatic look and appear a bit lifeless. Only strong make-up can improve the situation. (I can speak from experience here, being a blond myself.) If you are blond and wish to look alive, make sure that you wear your beige ,suit with a dark-coloured blouse or sweater, such as black, brown, rust, or burgundy. A white or pastel shade will look well on a brunette with olive skin.

Colours affect how we look and how others see us, more so than style. (We say, for instance, that a dark colour is authoritative—without even mentioning the style of a garment.) Colour is the first thing in our wardrobe to which we should give our attention. No style or design can make up for a lack of colour co-ordination, or for a shade that does not complement a person’s complexion, personality, or lifestyle.

LOOKING AT WHAT YOU HAVE

Many fashion designers never follow any guidelines; ignoring all the rules, they trust their instincts. I am asking you to do just that. Look at yourself and the colours you wear and decide what you like and what you feel good in. If you answer that you really don’t know, now is the time to find out. I know from working with women that there is hardly a woman alive who doesn’t react when something looks well on her, provided she makes a real effort to notice. Therefore, the first thing I am asking you to do is trust your own judgment. When you are in doubt, the colour is not for you. If it were, you would have immediately responded to it in a positive way.

What you need to do now is work with your present wardrobe. Try on your clothes and look at yourself. Do you like what you see? Maybe you think: I never should have bought the burgundy blouse for the charcoal-grey suit—it’s drab. Well, why not try the white blouse instead? See how much livelier that looks? The message here is that two muted colours don’t enhance your appearance because your face needs more light.

NOTE – Never (if you wear make-up) try on clothes without make-up; the results will not be dependable

Trying on all your clothes will help you learn more. You may find, for example, that navy isn’t really a great colour on you; you liked yourself better in burgundy or grey. This exercise will prove that you do indeed know what colour is just right for you.

CHECKING OUT THE UNFAMILIAR

Since your wardrobe, like most wardrobes, doesn’t contain all colours, now is the time to experiment with some shades you’ve never worn before. Most shops let you try on clothes before making a purchase. If, for example, lavender or charcoal grey are among those never-before-worn colours, find out now how they look on you. Remember not to listen to the salesperson—decide for yourself. Also, don’t think that another style might make a difference. If the shade isn’t becoming, another style won’t make it more attractive. (To illustrate this point, think of the times you’ve tried on something and thought: ‘If this were in a different colour I’d like it,’ or ‘The colour is nice but the style isn’t for me.’) You must consider the colour before the style. Never prejudge: try it on and look. If a blouse you want to buy comes in six colours, it’s a good idea to try on several to see the most flattering.

Also don’t forget that colours come in many different shades. While brown might not be appropriate for you, tan might be. Often we are too general in our assessment of colours. We don’t consider the many different tones that exist. Beige is a good example: there are lots of different beige. If a very light tone makes you look lifeless a camel tone might look smashing.By the way, the richer and more unusual shades can often be found only in more expensive garments. The higher price might be worth it if the shade in question suits you especially well

 NOTE – When shopping and trying to decide whether a certain colour is good for you, try to look at it in daylight. Artificial light changes colours. Go to the door of the boutique or to a window in a department store. If this isn’t possible, check it at home. If you find it to be unsuitable, take the trouble to return it. Don’t compromise when it comes to your looks. The contrary applies when buying an evening dress or a garment to be worn mainly in artificial light: try it on in that light. Many colours that look well in daylight appear drab or ugly in the evening.

 Once you have done your research, you will see that there are many colours that suit you. However, for practical purposes—budget, lifestyle, and easier co-ordination of your wardrobe—you will have to eliminate some.

Let’s start with your budget. Your funds are probably limited, which means that you have to plan your wardrobe to get the most for your money—many different looks with relatively few pieces. These pieces have to match any way you put them together. You cannot have both a navy-blue and black suit because they and their accessories can’t be interchanged. The best solution is to pick two colours that suit you well and build your wardrobe around them.

Of course, if these two colours are red and royal blue, they might not fit your lifestyle, which is your next consideration. Red and royal blue would not be suitable as basic colours. They are noticed and remembered too easily by others and they are inappropriate in many situations. So you should concentrate on the neutral tones that suit you: black, white, grey, brown, beige, navy, and so on. From these pick two for the basic items in your wardrobe, such as coats, suits, dresses, trousers, and skirts. Don’t worry about being too monotone in your look, for there are endless variations and shades in these colours. Another advantage of basic colours is that you will never look out of place, either at work or in a more casual setting. Furthermore, you will never be overpowered by these shades. I’m referring not only to your complexion but also to your personality. It takes a certain bravado and energy to carry off flamboyant colours. Unless you have plenty of both, you will feel and look uncomfortable in, such as, a bright pink. You can see how true this is when you think of days when you don’t feel well; don’t you automatically choose a darker outfit? This comes from your unconscious desire to fade into the background.

NOTE –When you’re tired, it’s better not to wear black at all. Instead, put a lighter shade next to your face.

Now look at the bright colours that you found becoming. Just because they don’t fit your lifestyle as basics doesn’t mean that you have to live without them. You can wear them in small quantities: in a scarf, belt, blouse, bag, and, if you are daring, as the colour of a pair of shoes. Did you ever own a pair of red shoes? They go with more outfits than you realise. They brighten up a grey dress, a navy suit, or a black skirt. Red also looks very fashionable with beige; a red blouse can work wonders with a beige suit.

Another reason that can help you decide on a colour is the type of fabric. A heavy fabric projects a colour more strongly than a thinner, finer material. There seems to be more of it. Take yellow, for example. In a wool fabric, it will be too bright for most of us. But the same colour in chiffon or silk is very soft and feminine.

Sometimes it happens that a colour unflattering to you is needed to complete an outfit. Let’s say you have a tweed jacket with a bit of green in it. A green blouse or sweater would certainly complete the outfit, but since green is not a good colour for you, choose a green skirt instead—it is far enough from your face not to be unbecoming. In other words, keep an unflattering colour away from your face. This type of compromise is sometimes necessary to extend your wardrobe.

NOTE  – Don’t worry too much about the latest fashion colour. It is never the only colour to be worn, even if it is the dominant one of the season. If it is suitable for your looks and your lifestyle, by all means wear it. If not, don’t feel too bad. Remember that looking terrific is more important than looking fashionable.

I think for today we will leave at this – there is much more to say about colour, but I don’t want to overwhelm you – this is quite a bit to digest –

Until next Sunday when we will talk about Black and what colours co-ordinate well.

And never forget – A Smile Changes Everything!

Brigitte

 

 

Dress to Impress – Find out How……… 2. Installment – Telling the Truth

Every Sunday I look forward to connecting with you, today it’s about

TELLING THE TRUTH

To see what you like about yourself, you need—besides an open mind—a full-length mirror. Stand in front of it and try to imagine that the person reflected there is someone else. This way your good points become more apparent. Being more objective will make you more generous. You will give yourself credit for what you have instead of being over-critical.

Start with your hair. Does it frame your face the right way? Is it too short to do so? Or, if your hair is long, would a shorter style make it appear thicker and more sensual? Would more frequent brushing add the life that is missing? When looking at your face, it might occur to you that make-up could improve it. If you are not used to wearing any, or if you don’t want to look made-up, relax: having good make-up that enhances your face does not mean a heavy, painted look. It can be very subtle and still create the effect you want.

Now to your body. In order to know what to do about a large bust or thin arms, you must first be aware of your assets and liabilities. And to help you to get to know yourself well, I would like you to fill out the chart below. Standing in front of your full-length mirror, pull in your stomach and stand straight. Start with your shoulders; don’t accuse them of sloping when bad posture is the culprit. Examine yourself carefully and circle the appropriate adjectives.

HEIGHT: WEIGHT:

HAIR COLOUR:

 

DRESS SIZE:

SHOULDERS: Broad Narrow Sloping Just right
NECK: Long Short Fair Just right
BUS Big Small Fair Just right
ARMS: Heavy Thin Fair Just right
WAIST: TORSO: STOMACH: Big

Long-waisted Protruding

Small

Short-waisted

Fair

 

Fair

Just right

 

Just right

HIPS:, Wide Narrow Fair Just right
DERRIERE: Big Flat Fair Just right
LEGS (length): Long Short Fair Just right
THIGHS: Heavy Thin Fair Just right
LEGS (below knees): Heavy Thin Fair Just right
HANDS: Small Large Fair Just right
My best features (s):

 What I don’t like about myself:                                                       

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Now that you have completed the list, check it thoroughly. You will find that you have more assets than defects. And don’t feel depressed about something like heavy thighs; most defects (or what appear to be defects) can be corrected or minimized through diet, exercise, better posture, better care, or more attention to detail. There are very few things that are impossible to correct, and even those are easier to live with once you know them . Being aware of your body will help you buy the clothes that will make you feel and look more attractive and confident.

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Until next Sunday when we start to look at  The Importance of Colour, Prints and Fit

And never forget – A Smile Changes Everything!

Brigitte