I am sure you have heard this one before, but sometimes we forget. The rule is that if you have not worn a garment for one year, it can be for one of the following reasons:
– you don’t like it anymore
– it does not fit anymore
– it does not suit your lifestyle anymore
– it is not in fashion anymore
Only one of these reasons is enough to take it out of your wardrobe.
When it comes to evening and party dressed the rule chances to two years – because the reason you might not have worn it in the last year is that you had no occasion, so you can give it another chance.
Never before have we had as many clothes, and options – what to wear– than today. So why do we seldom see a well dressed, well put together woman? (by the way this is also true for men?)
Doing some research and people watching, I came up with the following 3 reasons:
1. FIT – most garments don’t fit well – too long, too tight, too loose, shoulders not in the right place, sleeves too long, too baggy
2. CONDITION OF CLOTHES – wrinkled, out of shape, snagged, (I know the wrinkled look is in, but nothing replaces an ironed, crisp looking shirt).
3. COORDINATION – Brown pants, a red and black plaid shirt and a blue jacket don’t look good together – the I saw wearing it really did not care – she must have just thrown these items on, without even looking in the mirror.
Nobody makes all three mistakes, but even one is enough to prevent a woman from looking well dressed. But it is not difficult to correct these missteps – paying a little attention, taking a little more time to check things out – or like we say today be more in the NOW when it comes to looking your best.
When at 89 my mother died, she still had beautiful, clear skin, and was often asked what her secret was. “Never going to bed with my make-up on” was her reply.
It is also said that your gens have something to do with good skin, but this being so or not, taking good care of your skin will keep it young and healthy looking. – and it is therefore, most important to keep it clean – to remove the pollution of the day – to give it rest, a chance to breathe.
I know from experience that there are evenings I am so tired that I would rather just fall into bed, but making the effort not to, my face rewards me the next morning with looking healthy and fresh — your skin too will look better if you take your make-up off everynight!
When everybody’s hair on television got longer and longer I was wondering how it is possible that suddenly every girl has beautiful long hair? “But they are all extensions.” a friend of mine said, and when she explained what they are, I understood that beautiful long locks can be added, you don’t have to be born with them.
But for most of us, hair cascading over our shoulders is not the look we need for our lifestyle – on the contrary – for a professional image a shorter look is more appropriate and also easier to manage. And for those of us who have passed our days of youth, a shorter style looks younger.
There are many older women, some even have grey hair, who wear their hair long, down to/and over their shoulders – they would look so much better with shorter hair, and not run the risk to look like an old girl.
The next time you go for a haircut, talk to your hairdresser, maybe cutting an inch (or more) will make you look years younger, and be more appropriate for your lifestyle.
This means taking everything out of your closets, out of your drawers, and off the shelves – including shoes, handbags, underwear, and all other accessories. There will be quite a few items you’re in doubt about. So ask yourself:
– Does this still suit me?
– Do I still like it?
– Do I still need it?
– Does it still fit my lifestyle
– Try on any garment you are in doubt about.
Once you have decided what to keep, look at what is left in your wardrobe and think what you would like to add to it, or what you need, keeping in mind your lifestyle and professional needs.
I know this is a tall order but don’t feel discouraged if you can’t do it all at once – depending on the size of your wardrobe, you might have to do it in stages.
The other day I was watching a model being interviewed on TV. She was asked, “What do you do to always look so glamorous?” Her answer was, “I don’t always look glamorous. It takes a lot of work and time, not to speak of the airbrushing that is done on my photos. I would like young girls to realize that models don’t look in reality as we appear in the magazines – knowing this would help them feel less inadequate because they don’t look like the girl in Vogue.”
Most of us don’t look like the girl in Vogue, but if we take a little time for ourselves, we will look better. For example:
– if you ever wonder ‘should I wash your hair today?’ – yes, you should – you will look better for it
– putting on some make-up (even if you are at home) will make you feel better
– having a manicure will give you prettier hands
– a face mask once a week will give you better skin
– an extra hour of sleep or just relaxing a moment here and there will do more for your complexion than the most expensive cream
– an hour of exercise once or twice a week – or just going for a walk – will make you feel more alive
If your excuse is ‘I don’t have the time’ remember in order to take care of everything and everybody in your life, you have to include yourself – take care of yourself, spend some time with yourself and on yourself – you will feel and look better!
As a reminder and incentive to lose the few pounds you might have gained over the winter months, I suggest you wear the ‘smaller clothes’ in your wardrobe.
I know from my own experience and from looking at my client’s wardrobes that we all have clothes that accommodate a few extra pounds – and then we have our ‘ideal weight clothes’ which we ignore when they hug us too tightly.
Now is the time to get out the latter and start wearing them, because nothing helps you keep your appetite in check as much as a tight waistband. If it pinches long and hard enough, you will eat less and soon fit into it comfortable.
When we fall in love with a pair of shoes, and the salesman says, “Sorry, we don’t have them in eight and a half” – we convince ourselves that size 8, which we are trying on, really doesn’t feel so tight, even if our big toe is going to sleep.
Here are a few ideas to help you get the right size:
-Buy your shoes in the afternoon, or after you have been on your feet for a few hours -in the morning when your feet are rested, they will be half a size smaller than later in the day.
– See if there is an area that is not carpeted in the store – and walk there for a minutes, you will feel the difference – a soft carpet makes every shoe feel so much more comfortable
– and most important – when the salesman says, “Don’t worry they will stretch.“DON’TBELIEVE HIM! (Check in your wardrobe how man shoes you have which didn’t stretch!)
– the shoes you buy must feel so comfortable that you would like to walk out of the store with them –
Don’t compromise – you owe it to your feet to give them a comfortable home.
As we have heard yesterday ‘high heels’ are very becoming and seductive. But if you have not worn any for a long time – how do you start?
Buy a pair with a small heel. Maybe 2″ high, and start wearing them around the house. It will give your feet a chance to get used to them – remember only practice makes perfect – and with time you can wear them when you go out – and with more time – you might work yourself up to this
Your partner will be certainly appreciate your new look!
You might not be as slim around your waist as you would like to be, but ff your waistband is too tight you will have ‘muffin tops’ , and that is true even if you are slim – because pulling your waist in too tight will push up the flesh around your middle.
I know buying a size 10 jeans, or pants, or skirt, makes us feel better than buying a size 12, but it will be more becoming not to have your flesh pushed in the wrong direction.
So how can you avoid it – especially if you have a bigger waist?
The best way to avoid those ‘muffin tops’ is to buy pants without a waistband. They sit a little below the waist – like the one in the picture. They feel comfortable because they don’t retrain your waist or pull it in.