How good-looking you are, and how confident you feel about yourself is not a matter of how fashionable you are, or of how much money you have, or even of how beautiful you are, it is a matter os how well you can present and package yourself.
Yes, packaging is what sells most products and when it comes to looking good, you are the product and your clothes are the wrapping. The believe that there are no ugly women, just women who do not know how to look attractive, is true. without over-emphasising the importance of appearance, don’t forget that the biggest asset you have in life is yourself and you must use it to its best advantage.
The French philosopher Voltaire once said: ‘Dress changes the manner.’ That was true in the eighteenth century and it is still true today. Think about how good you feel when wearing your favourite outfit – or how you want to fade into the wall when you are wearing something you don’t like.
Choosing the right clothes can make you look and feel your best everyday. But since it does not happen by itself – you must commit to yourself – TO BE THE BEST YOU CAN BE EVERY DAY.
To avoid a thrown together look lay out everything that you intend to wear the next day before you go to bed. If a button is missing, if your suit needs a little touch-up pressing, if your shoes require polish, and to make sure that your outfit is well-coordinated — the night before is the time to do it. It is the best way to look well-groomed every day. And in the morning it allows you to dress without rushing or confusion. You can use the extra time for your make-up or enjoy a leisurely breakfast that will start you off on a better day!
You might say ‘but that is obvious’ – no it isn’t! I am presently associated with the Bottomless Closet, an organization that helps women to have the right image and proper clothing when they go for an interview.
While working with the women I am surprised to learn how many of them think a garment fits when it really doesn’t. Even when they can’t button a jacket – they say it fits. Don’t let that happen to you – here are a few tips how to avoid these mistakes.
1. You must be able to button a jacket – even if, as I often hear ‘I never button my jacket’ you should be able to
2. When buttoned – jackets or shirts should no GAPE – and if it doesn’t when you button it, make sure it doesn’t when you move.
3. When pants show horizontal pleats in the crotch area, it indicates that they are to snug.
4. If you have any extra weight around the middle, on the top or around the hips, a dress should be loose enough not to point them out – or it will look like this !
“What do you mean?” you might ask. It is not something we think about, but when we have a date, we dress to look nice for the man we meet.When we go to work we dress appropriately for work, but otherwise – what happens?
Please don’t say ‘nobody sees me anyway.’ Are you nobody? And to convince you a little more, remember how you feel when you look good! I am sure that you walk with more confidence, that your spirit is higher, and you feel happier about life.
You can feel that way everyday if you make yourself a priority and make the extra effortto look nice and be well dressed all the time – it will change your life and make your days brighter.
It is easy, it takes very little thought and one is never wrong wearing black with black, which is the reason why so many women are always are in black. But with spring coming it is time to add a touch of colour, and this year the fashion trends help – one of the major looks is black and white.
You can follow that trend with adding a white blouse or top, adding a white scarf, and even white handbags can make the difference – of course other colors can also brighten up a black outfit – don’t look like a widow this spring – join the fun of wearing bright, happy colours – you might even try something in orange?
Giving my clothes away I enjoy as much as buying them. When recently I gave away 2 silk dresses, a pair of leather pants and two tops, I felt so relieved to see them go – because seeing them hang in my closet I felt guilty for not wearing them.
I know many women cannot easily let go of what has been part of their wardrobe for many, many years, but a friend of mine has a slogan, that might help, “If you don’t wear it, let somebody else enjoy it.” Thinking that you are doing a good deed will make it easier to separate yourself from that lovely Burberry jacket you bought on sale three years ago, and never wore because it is a little snug – I know – who can resist a Burberry blazer for only $99?
Remember the minute you have doubts about an item, and you have not worn it in the last year, it is time to let it go!