You might say ‘but that is obvious’ – no it isn’t! I am presently associated with the Bottomless Closet, an organization that helps women to have the right image and proper clothing when they go for an interview.
While working with the women I am surprised to learn how many of them think a garment fits when it really doesn’t. Even when they can’t button a jacket – they say it fits. Don’t let that happen to you – here are a few tips how to avoid these mistakes.
1. You must be able to button a jacket – even if, as I often hear ‘I never button my jacket’ you should be able to
2. When buttoned – jackets or shirts should no GAPE – and if it doesn’t when you button it, make sure it doesn’t when you move.
3. When pants show horizontal pleats in the crotch area, it indicates that they are to snug.
4. If you have any extra weight around the middle, on the top or around the hips, a dress should be loose enough not to point them out – or it will look like this !
“What do you mean?” you might ask. It is not something we think about, but when we have a date, we dress to look nice for the man we meet.When we go to work we dress appropriately for work, but otherwise – what happens?
Please don’t say ‘nobody sees me anyway.’ Are you nobody? And to convince you a little more, remember how you feel when you look good! I am sure that you walk with more confidence, that your spirit is higher, and you feel happier about life.
You can feel that way everyday if you make yourself a priority and make the extra effortto look nice and be well dressed all the time – it will change your life and make your days brighter.
It is easy, it takes very little thought and one is never wrong wearing black with black, which is the reason why so many women are always are in black. But with spring coming it is time to add a touch of colour, and this year the fashion trends help – one of the major looks is black and white.
You can follow that trend with adding a white blouse or top, adding a white scarf, and even white handbags can make the difference – of course other colors can also brighten up a black outfit – don’t look like a widow this spring – join the fun of wearing bright, happy colours – you might even try something in orange?
Giving my clothes away I enjoy as much as buying them. When recently I gave away 2 silk dresses, a pair of leather pants and two tops, I felt so relieved to see them go – because seeing them hang in my closet I felt guilty for not wearing them.
I know many women cannot easily let go of what has been part of their wardrobe for many, many years, but a friend of mine has a slogan, that might help, “If you don’t wear it, let somebody else enjoy it.” Thinking that you are doing a good deed will make it easier to separate yourself from that lovely Burberry jacket you bought on sale three years ago, and never wore because it is a little snug – I know – who can resist a Burberry blazer for only $99?
Remember the minute you have doubts about an item, and you have not worn it in the last year, it is time to let it go!
As we have heard yesterday ‘high heels’ are very becoming and seductive. But if you have not worn any for a long time – how do you start?
Buy a pair with a small heel. Maybe 2″ high, and start wearing them around the house. It will give your feet a chance to get used to them – remember only practice makes perfect – and with time you can wear them when you go out – and with more time – you might work yourself up to this
Your partner will be certainly appreciate your new look!
Everything in our life is better with a little TLC – even your clothes. Treat them kindly and well, they will repay you by always making you look good.
When getting undressed don’t put clothes over the back of a chair, or worth yet, drop them on the floor because they need to be washed or dry cleaned. Instead hang them up, or at least fold them neatly while they are waiting to go to the cleaners or being washed, avoid wrinkling them unnecessary because even pressing them later does not always make wrinkles disappear totally and does not improve their shape.
Doing a wardrobe consultation recently my client, who had lots and lots of t-shirts, I think like most of us, had rolled them up and stuffed them in a drawer. When we pulled them out they looked more like rags than t-shirts – believe me they didn’t make her look good when she put them on — please fold them before placing them on a shelf or in a drawer, you don’t want to look like you are coming out of the washing machine.
Another way to help your clothes to keep their shape is not to use wire hangers; use good plastic hangers, or wooden ones for coats and jackets.
The money you have spent on your wardrobe can only pay real dividend when you take care of your investment by giving it a little Tender Loving Care.
If you want to be the fairest one of all your make-up must be well applied. To be absolute sure, take a hand mirror and go to a window where you can see your face by daylight. You might put your make-up on in the bathroom, or somewhere where the light is not so good, making it difficult to get the whole picture.
So tomorrow morning when you have applied your make-up, take a mirror and try it. You might be surprised that your eye shadow is a little to heavy, or that your powder is too much, showing up any wrinkles, or that your lipstick is too red.
It won’t take long to adjust it, but you will then be sure that you are the fairest one of all. Have a good day!
So far I have talked about how to avoid mistakes while shopping, but there is another important step you have to take to really be sure that you buy what is most becoming and flattering to your body – and that is to stand in front of a mirror and honestly fill out this questionnaire
But please remember this is not an exercise to find your shortcomings, instead concentrate on all your positive features — so when you go shopping you will buy clothes which emphasize the PLUSES, and I am sure you have plenty of them!
A dream comes true. No more commuting, or getting dressed in a hurry and trying to
catch the 7.45 am train. Instead an extra cup of coffee, and we can just slip into our sweat
suit, or better yet, stay in the t-shirt and leggings we slept in, a shower we can always take
later, and no make-up – what bliss!.
But by 11 am., even though we have done some work, we don’t feel so good. It is our subconscious telling us that we don’t look as good as we did when we went out to work, and it is telling us so by making us feel uncomfortable. And when passing a mirror it gets even worse, looking at ourselves we might wonder -Who is that? And then with a deep sigh, our not so coiffed hair, or too large top is dismissed with – well nobody sees me anyway. You should stop and ask,” What do you mean? Am I nobody?”
Oh, I am not just preaching, I have been there and when one day, not by 11 am but by 2 pm I felt so bad that I thought I was sick. I took a shower, washed my hair, and put on a nice pair of pants with a fresh white blouse — I did not feel sick anymore, I felt well and alive. Since then I get dressed every morning, and even put on some make-up.
I don’t mean you have to wear your black suit around the house, but your jeans can be replaced by the slacks you have hanging in your closet. And you have other tops besides t-shirts and sweats. Of, course if you can’t miss the comfort of your sweats; buy nice ones, maybe a top with a zip in front, or a sweat or warm –up suit that matches.
My grandmother, who I admired for her down to earth wisdom, was always dressed and combed early in the morning. She used to say, “You never know who will be knocking at the door, and you don’t want to be embarrassed about how you look.” You don’t either!