Already one week into the New Year, and we have to be serious about keeping our New Year’s resolutions – one of them should be to LOOK YOUR BEST this year. And where better to start than on the top – by getting the right haircut.
Wouldn’t it be wonderful if you could just say to a hairdresser, “I want a new look – something flattering and easy to manage” and that is what you would get. Unfortunately it doesn’t work that way. If you leave it up to the hairdresser, you’re disappointed more often than not. Your hair doesn’t look the way you want it to, and you face months of waiting for it to grow again, until you have another chance for the perfect cut.
The answer to this dilemma is that you have to tell the hairdresser exactly what you want. Tell him (or her) about your lifestyle and what you expect from a haircut. He might not have the same taste as you, or even if he has, how can he know that you feel better with long hair, unless you tell him? So you can’t leave it up to him, you have to discuss it with him, leaving no doubt in his mind about what it is you want. And watch him while he cuts; you might just want a trim, but if he gets scissor-happy you can stop him.
Deciding for yourself what you want is not as difficult as you might think. Be realistic in evaluating your hair and that of others. Discontent with one’s hairstyle often results from seeing another woman with a nice cut, or looking at models in magazines. To be sure that a hairstyle you see would suit you too, ask yourself the following questions:
1. Is the hair I’m admiring like mine? Or is it thicker than mine?
2. Is the hair the same colour as mine, or similar to it? This is important because short dark hair looks great, but the same cut in on a blond woman might not.
3. Is the woman in the picture the same type as I?
If all the answers are YES you can seriously consider the style, but if you get even one NO the hairstyle you admire will not look as good on you.
Many women tell me, “But I don’t know what I want, I don’t know what suit me.” This is like buying a dress – how can you get the right one if you don’t know what you are looking for? But the wrong dress is not as dramatic as the wrong haircut. You can just put it aside; with the wrong haircut you have to live for months.
So in order to find out what you want, and what is up-to-date, look through magazines. No, the models don’t all have wonderful thick hair, they have learned to make the most of – with the help of very good stylists. First look for the type of women that resembles you and see what hairstyle she has. When you have picked several you like, install yourself in front of a mirror and try to comb or pin your hair in that way. It doesn’t matter if you can’t get it exactly right. Coming close to it will give you an idea of whether you like it. Let’s say you have always worn your hair away from your forehead, and you like the girl with bangs, comb your hair forward and see what it does for you.
If the change you want to make is a drastic one, I suggest that you go to a department store and try on a wig in the style you are considering – remembering that most wigs have more hair than a human head. So the style in a wig looks fuller than your own hair will.
Once you’re sure of what you want, find a hairdresser you feel comfortable with. Whether a friend has given you an address or you’ve read about a salon, don’t make your first appointment by phone. Go for a visit and look around, notice the other clients and their hairstyles. Ask to speak to the stylist who will take care of you. Discuss briefly what you want. This way you will find out if you like the person and if you see eye to eye. If you do, make an appointment, otherwise go somewhere else.
When you come for your appointment, tell him again what you want, and watch what he does. Unfortunately, a visit to a beauty salon is not pure relaxation. If you read, or don’t explain clearly what you want, you have only yourself to blame if your cut is not what you wanted.
To test whether your haircut is good, throw your head forward and then back. Your hair should fall back into place without looking untidy. The same rule applies if your hair is blown by the wind. If it does not fall back into place, you don’t have a good cut.
I always remember my grandmother telling me, “Your hair is the most important part of your look, that is what everybody sees first.” – and I think she was right.
I know a visit to some salons can be very expensive. but to pay for it, take the money out of your clothing budget. Nobody will notice when you wear the same dress again, but everyone will notice when your hair does not look its best.
And even the wildest hairstyle, like in this picture, is a carfully cut style.